If you abuse alcohol, you should realize that you are affecting the quality of life of your children. Your children may end up with many problems that could affect them right through their childhood and into adulthood. Some of the problems that your kids can face due to your alcohol abuse include the following:
- As your kids will not experience normal family relationships, they will not know what normal means. They will be unable to distinguish between good and bad role models. They will find it difficult to be around other families, as they will not know how to react.
- Children of alcoholics tend to feel inadequate. They judge themselves harshly and have low self-esteem and self-worth. As a result, they can suffer from depression and anxiety, and they can also get angry with themselves for making a minor mistake.
- Your kids will be scared of angry people if you resort to domestic violence due to your alcoholism. Your kids will avoid all kinds of conflicts and confrontations, as they will be constantly afraid that these situations could turn violent.
- If you are an alcoholic, you will deny your children a normal childhood. This could result in your kids having trust issues due to broken promises that they experienced because of you. They will feel that they cannot trust anyone as trusting would backfire at some point just like it did when they trusted you.
- Children of alcoholics are emotionally vulnerable and they constantly worry about abandonment. This can cause them to become clingy in their relationships, as they are afraid of being left alone. At the same time, the low self-esteem can have an opposite effect, with such kids finding it difficult to maintain intimate relationships as they grow older and turn into adults. They will be afraid of becoming close to another person, as they will worry that the person may abandon them or break their trust and promise.
- Your kids will constantly look for approval and try and become people-pleasers just to make others happy. They will not take criticism well and may get angry or even violent if they are criticized.
If you are a parent and have alcohol-abuse problems, it is time to seek professional help. You should consider the effect your alcoholism is having on your kids and take measures to rectify the damage you have caused. It is never too late.